Part II: Potential/ Part III: Wisdom

Part II-Potential

I was once thrown out of class at school for being “smart”. It was a math class, and we had been given another one of those questions: “ If Bob and Bill live 30 miles apart and Bob travels at 20 miles per hour and Bill travels at 40 miles per hour, at what exact minute will they meet?” I dreaded those questions.

“What’s your answer, Robert?

I had no idea, so I said, “It all depends how bad the traffic is. If they are meant to meet, I am sure they will. “

“Out!” shouted the teacher, pointing to the door. “Don’t get smart with me!”

I didn’t do well in school. My academic education was a conversation I never really got the hang of. I studied algebra, but I didn’t know what for.

My academic education was not bad, just irrelevant. I participated, but I wasn’t inspired. My education prepared me to get through school, but not through life. I was taught lots of facts and how to pass a test, but not how to create a vision, discover a purpose, and live a successful life.

In 1983, at 18 years old, I received on the same day two very different offers for higher education. One was a fast track one-year post-graduate course in journalism at Portsmouth College. It was a high speed opportunity to learn a skill, land a job, and start earning a wage…In Birmingham, I finally found a curriculum that inspired me. My education was rich, broad, deep, thrilling, and challenging. I wasn’t just studying, I was growing...

Intelligence, which comes from the Latin intelligens, meaning "choose among," is the ability to keep choosing the potential you most want to foster.

Most people live, whether physically, intellectually, or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make very small use of their possible consciousness and of their soul's resources in general..

Authentic Success

As I watched the film of my life, I sensed something was missing…As I got to know Peter, it was clear he could speak eloquently on almost any subject except one-himself. In our Manic Society, it is easy to become strangers to ourselves,. Our rapid, unrelenting schedules demand so much of our energy and awareness. Time flies, and we are so busy with our projects and plans that there is no time for reflection. We attend to what is in front of us, not within us. Our drive for achievement and recognition demands that we override our feelings, our wisdom, and our exhaustion- just to get through another day.

Peter realized he had never defined success for himself, and also that he rarely acknowledge his successes. ”I’m always chasing the next success,” he said.

On another occasion I asked Peter for his response to the statement “I am energized.” Peter again gave a minus three score.

“Why is your energy reading so low?” I asked.

“Maybe a lack of vitamin C,” he joked. Peter was unused to this depth of self-inquiry and would often playfully resist. “Does there have to be a reason?”

I invited Peter to close his eyes and tune in to his tiredness. “Ask yourself, why are you this tired?”

Who am I?

Self-knowledge is a primary key to Success Intelligence. The  better you know yourself-what you value, what inspires you, what you are made of- the more effectively you will live, work, and relate to others.

“Knowing I will die, how shall I live?”

The Self Principle

Self-knowledge is a good starting point. Your self-knowledge is your central reference system for every other type of intelligence and wisdom. The better you know yourself, the better you can live and work with authenticity and authority.  Self-knowledge also teaches you about your inner strengths and true values. The better you know yourself, the better you can trust your wisdom, follow your joy, and liberate your talent.

1.       Self-image and Perception

SI is formed from the judgments you and others make about you.

“We see things not as they are, but as we are.” The new view of modern science is that we live in a participatory universe in which the observer and the observed are inseparable. Werner Heisenberg concluded, “The common division of the world into subject and object, inner and out world, body and soul is no longer adequate.” Ultimately, then, perception is projection and the world is a mirror.

2.       Self-image and Beliefs

You do not see a world that is objective to you. You see your beliefs. You see your hope. You see your fears.

3.       Self-image and Communication

You self-image influences greatly the way you relate to and communicate with everyone else. In essence, every relationship you have with others is an extension of your relationship with you. “Your confidence in people, and your doubt about them, is closely related to your self-confidence and your self-doubt. Again, it is your self-image that influences what you think is possible and what you deserve in relationships.

I find that many relationship conflicts are really, at root, self-image conflicts. For instance, it is so difficult for someone who refuses to see his or her own value to accept the praise, kindness, and love of another. It falls on deaf ears. Poor self-regard can cause unhealthy levels of independence, competition, jealousy, self-editing, people-pleasing, and self-attack. We may say, “I have nothing to prove to anyone,” but that isn’t really how we feel. Conversely, positive self-regard can help promote better intimacy, partnership, generosity, and overall success.

4.       Self-image and Behavior

How you see yourself determines the sorts of roles you take on in your relationships, at work, and in life generally…All your actions, feelings, behavior-even your abilities- are consistent with this self-image. In short, you will “act like” the sort of person you conceive yourself to be.

Liberating Talent

It is often said that success is a state of mind. It can also be said that the major blocks to success are states of mind. One of the major internal obstacles to success that I frequently encounter is “Fraud Guilt” or the “Imposter Syndrome.” It is experienced when People think others’ estimation of them is higher than their own. For example, a newly promoted manager should feel successful, but secretly he fears his company has made the biggest mistake in its history. Or an actor receives a standing ovation at the final curtain, but he is full of self-attack because he sees only the technical flaws in his performance. Or a man is engaged to the woman of his dreams and knows he should be happy but he isn’t because he can’t believe his luck.

FG is the shadow of success that can darken our finest moments. It ruins the experience of success.

People with FG may appear to accept success, but internally they feel like they are faking it, and their big fear is that they will be “found out” at any moment. Hence, they fail to own their talents, internalize the appreciation, and enjoy their success. Their successes leave them feeling empty and questioning what happens next. One option is to achieve even more success.

When anyone faces a new beginning, addresses a blank page, and starts at zero again, it is likely they will meet their inner fears and doubts.

What do you respect most about yourself? What are your most valuable strengths, talents and gift? 3 questions: 1. what am I really talented at in my work? 2. What makes me very good at relationships? 3. What have I mastered about living life well?

The success Contract

What is possible and what is not?

How do you know?

What do you believe about life?

How good can life be before you think this is too good to be true?
On one level it is all just make-believe, but it is also true that what you believe will be how you live.

Personal Law

What are you conditions for success?

1.       The Deserving Law

It is your sense of worthiness that ultimately supports or sabotages your success. Many people who suffer from FG believe they do not deserve their success because they have not passed some internal qualification.

2.       The Work Ethic

“Vacations are for lay people!”

3.       The Pain Permit

Some Success Contracts carry a “Pan Permit,” which dictates that a person can only purchase success with pain tokens. Do you believe in the law “No pain, no gain”?

4.       The Hidden Cost

To people who believe in the law “There is no such thing as a free lunch”, everything is a negotiation, a deal, and a transaction. Nothing just “is” There are no unconditional moments.

5.       The Sacrifice Demand

6.       The perfect Order

7.       The independence Rule

The IR states that you must reinvent the wheel, build the bike by yourself, and pedal on alone if you are to win prizes that mean anything. Dysfunctional independence is a prevalent block to success in Western first-world nations, where excessive individualism is the dominant trend. People who are too independent always have difficulty in relationships because they are not good at intimacy, receiving, and partnership.

New Beliefs

“In breach of contract”

Not when you understand that if you raise your beliefs you can tap into greater possibilities and something higher.

  

Inner Dialogue

Who taught you how to think?

Modern scientists who study the new physics say that the essential “stuff” of the universe is not atoms, but thoughts.

The mind is its own place, and it itself

Can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.

“As your physician, I prescribe a heavy dose of vacation!”

Many people in the Manic Society frequently override their wisdom. Exhaustion and thinking do not mix well.

Set aside some time to listen to your inner dialogue. Let yourself be inspired.

Part III-Wisdom

Wisdom is not an MBA

Whatever you do, do it with intelligence and keep the end in view

Einstein wrote: Perfection means and confusion of goals seem to characterize our age

Success Is Not Always Up

The highest reward from your working is not what you get for it but what you become by it.

Love Is Not Just an Emotion

Happiness in Not an It

Consumerism has many adverse side effects.

You can never get enough of what you didn’t want in the first place

Love Is Not Just an Emotion

Love is the Goal: Love is the reason. Love is our true power.

Love is Intelligent: What is your ultimate secret to success?

Love is the Work:

I learned that business people classify work skills in two groups: “hard” and “soft” The hard skills are so called because people agree they have a tangible impact on the profits of a business. These hard skills include law, finance, systems, technology, and manufacturing. The so-called soft skills are considered secondary, less essential skills. They are often referred to disparagingly as “touchy-feely.” They include values, ethics, team spirit, communication, and service.

We all know, in our heart of hearts, that when love inspires work, it is transformative, creative, and deeply satisfying.
Who have taught you the most about love? What exactly did they teach you?

葡萄树，没长出来是因为没有足够的养份和阳光

en麻tio木ns空虚

像喝海水越喝越渴

你让我跑，但是不给我方向

人生的目标

原点

你问我人生的

找不到答案

孤单无助空虚

受过高等教育。。。约束？

罪的腐蚀

小三台面化

“罪”

不是教主而是救主

有罪的都在教会，没有的都在监狱

犯法的意识（上帝）／罪性

犯法的行为（人

该做的不做不该的